Many of you are likely celebrating 4th of July. At this point in my life, I think more about the meanings of holidays and whether or not I want to expend energy on celebrations. I love my country and she’s a mess. I chose today to just take a break and I’m good with that. If you want to have a glimpse into why some folks around you might not be too deep into celebrating ‘Merica today, check out this historic speech , “What to the Slave is 4th of July?” from Frederick Douglass read by James Earl Jones. I don’t knock you for sporting your red, white, and blue or eating your hot dogs. I just always want to equip you with new perspectives. American hasn’t been and isn’t great for everyone. Until we get new management, we’re just going backwards.
Alrighty. Now, let’s get into this week’s 3xTHRIVE!
A person to know: Cleo Wade
Some of my fave words from Heart Talk: Poetic Wisdom for a Better Life
“Gratitude is a spiritual and economical form of stress relief.”
“Just a friendly reminder: Nothing about you is a mistake. You are a gift and you are here for a reason. You deserve to take up space in the world, and we need you here.”
“Remember not to care about things you don’t even care about.”
Fear worries, “How will I get there?” Faith smiles knowingly, “We will get there.”
Ever made or heard comments like this before:
“You’re really pretty, for a black girl.”
“Where are you really from?”
“Wait, you suffer from a mental illness? Wow, you seem so normal to me.”
“You know, I don’t even think of you as Asian.”
Microaggressions are defined according to Merriam-Webster Dictionary as “a comment or action that subtly and often unconsciously or unintentially expresses a prejudiced attitude toward a member of a marginalized group (such as a racial minority).” Wikipedia defines a microaggression as a “term used for brief and commonplace daily verbal, behavioral, or environmental indignities, whether intentional or unintentional, that communicate hostile, derogatory, or negative prejudicial slights and insults toward any group.”
Read up on these “paper cuts” that are committed all of the time and weigh on the hearts, minds, and souls of people who are marginalized and minoritized in this world.
When you know better, you do better. Be mindful of your language and remember that good intentions only get you so far. Your language has intent and impact. You might have positive intent and negative impact. Be willing to say “oops” when someone responds to your comments with an “ouch”. Learn, make corrections, and be a part of creating an environment where all people can thrive.
“When can we meet?”
Nope. I don’t have this conversation anymore. My response, “how about I send you a Doodle?” is the only answer to this question.
I’m the Queen of Doodle.
I often find myself in the position of scheduling group outings, conference calls, and meetings. I hate ridiculously long email or text threads trying to piece together everyone’s convoluted schedules. Floating one time out into the world with the hopes that everyone can make it is often a fool’s errand. Therefore, everything from brunch with friends all the way to committee meetings for professional organizations gets scheduled through Doodle. In most cases, the day with the most humans able to attend wins.
I have an account which opens doors to additional features including a confidential option which helps me schedule people who aren’t really supposed to know about each other, like for interviews.
I think my friends now depend on me to send the Doodle. It gets the ball rolling on our next adventure.
Let me know if you decide to check out any of my offerings and if they add anything to your life. All that I hope is that whatever books you read, tools you use, or sites you visit, that you’re thriving in life in whatever way is best for you. I simply want you to win.
Until next time,